They say the secret to a strong marriage is sacrifice, not compromise. Often times, you are giving up the lesser important for the greater good or goal. This statement could not ring more true than a life as a military spouse.
My husband, Joe Bisso, has served in the US Army for 7 years in Active Duty and 2.5 years in the Reserves. We have been married for 5 years, have gone through 2 deployments as a couple, and he is currently serving as the Chief of Press & Visits (PVO) for the Multinational Force and Observers in Sinai, Egypt for a year. Even when he’s home (stateside), he’s not really home. He’s either away at trainings or at work pretty late.
Needless to say, we spend a lot of time apart. I often get asked, “How do you do it?”. The unglamorous answer, “You get used to it.” You get used to spending anniversaries, birthdays & holidays apart. You learn to adapt to change and find a new normal. Constantly saying “see you later” will never get easier, but it makes the reunions all the better! When he is home, we make the most of it. We make sure to spend a lot of quality time together. We do things. We travel. We make memories!
I honestly could not do this life as a military spouse without the community of Army spouses that I’ve met through years, my family and friends, and my #TMXFamily. Having a support system is paramount to making it through this journey. At the end of the day, I’m PROUD to be a military spouse. My sacrifices will never compare to the sacrifice that my husband and fellow soldiers make daily for our freedoms.